If you’ve been thinking about separating from your partner, you might have some questions. Maybe you’re wondering whether you’re making the right choice. Perhaps you’re thinking about whether or not you actually want to proceed with the separation process. Maybe you want to know if this is going to impact your children. You might be wondering if you’re a failure. No matter what questions you might have and no matter what emotions you might be experiencing, there are a number of things you need to know about divorce.

It’s a process

While the decision to separate from your spouse might have taken you a long time, understand that the actual process of legally divorcing your partner will also be time-consuming. You won’t fill out a form and be instantly divorced. Instead, you and your partner will need to work through separating your assets, determining how alimony will work, and deciding who will have custody of your children. Understand that sometimes, involving a judge becomes necessary, especially if you can’t agree on the terms of the divorce. While the decision to divorce is a huge one, it also may take you a lot of time.

Your emotions will vary

There will be days when you feel comfortable with your decision and there will be times when you wonder if you’re doing the right thing. Understand that during this period of change and adjustment, you’ll feel many different things. This is normal. More importantly, it’s okay. Talk with a friend, mentor, or even a therapist who can help you sort through your emotions and move forward. You may also want to consider starting a new hobby or keeping a journal as a way to relax. Aim to sort through your feelings in a healthy way. Avoid taking your stress out on your children or partner.

Change takes time to accept

There will be many moments where change seems overwhelming. When you separate from your spouse, you do more than just sign a piece of paper. You separate your finances, your lifestyles, your belongings, and your futures. Understand that adapting to all of the changes may take time. You may be moving to a new place or starting a new job during this period. Give yourself some breathing room. You don’t have to get used to everything immediately. Sometimes, you may regret your decision and other times, you will feel satisfied with your choice. Give yourself time to adjust to the changes you’re experiencing. Soon they will become your new normal.

Don’t wait to talk with an attorney who can guide you through your divorce. Your attorney knows exactly how you’re feeling and can help you move forward in a healthy and efficient way. Talk with your attorney about resources that may help you. Also ask about ways you can expedite the divorce process and ways you can streamline your paperwork. This can help you separate as quickly and as seamlessly as possible.