Ask any queen what makes her special and she’ll tell you that she’s different from other women. In her mind, and in the minds of her subjects, she was chosen by God to fulfill her role; therefore, she is not subject to any earthly authority. The throne is hers by divine right. While you might not want to take your role quite that far, you can become the queen of your own life simply by changing your outlook and attitude.

Choose a Mentor Queen

To really psych yourself up to be the queen of your life, it’s imperative that you choose a famous queen from the past or present to emulate. Learn as much as you can about her through books, documentaries and Internet websites. When you’re ready to slip into your role as queen, imagine what your favorite queen would do in a similar situation. Some famous female rulers for you to consider include Queen Elizabeth I, Queen Elizabeth II, Queen Victoria, Catherine the Great, Marie Antoinette and Queen Nefertiti of Egypt.

Quit Worrying What People Think of You

In the words of Queen Victoria, “The important thing is not what they think of me, but what I think of them.” Remind yourself of this quote often when you’re tempted to wonder what others think of you. If you find yourself feeling insecure and worried about the opinions of others, ask yourself whether a queen would concern herself with these opinions. The answer is “Absolutely not!” And nor should you.

Buy the Best

It’s a well-known fact that queens have the best of everything. While you probably don’t have the financial budget that a queen does, you can still select quality items as often as possible. Look for sales with high-priced items slashed to rock bottom and purchase gently-used items that are normally priced above your budget secondhand when you have a chance. Smart women have managed to furnish the homes and clothe themselves in a way they could never normally afford by developing an eye for bargains.

Pamper Yourself

While a queen’s obligations are many, a queen knows that she must recharge her batteries often so she’s ready to perform her royal duties. The same is true for you. When you’re tired, lay down in a darkened room and rest until you’re ready to resume your activities. Take a bubble bath to soothe your aching muscles. Dab expensive perfume on your wrists and behind your ears to rejuvenate yourself. Remember that you deserve the best. You’re a queen, after all.

Command Respect

No one would ever dare treat the queen of a country in a way that is anything less that respectful. If there are people in your life who refuse to show you the respect you deserve, determine to put a stop to it immediately. If someone isn’t treating you with respect, they don’t deserve inclusion in your life. Either cut ties with them or teach them how to treat you with respect by calling them out on their behavior. In the words of former First Lady Eleanor Roosevelt, “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.”

As you can see, you don’t have to be born into a royal family to live a queenly lifestyle. By taking yourself and your desires seriously and striving to get what you want, you, too, can be the queen in your little corner of the world.